Thursday, July 11, 2013

How to Love



First let me start out by saying a few things.... yes I know it's been a long time... I'm trying.  And though I am not a fan of either him or his wife... and I don't know for sure that he really said all of this... the fact remains... this is powerful.  And I believe that it would work for not only couples, there are some important things in here that could be used in any relationship.  If this is true, from Brad... his wife is very very lucky.  And I feel, that if more people had and gave this kind of love... there would be a lot of happy productive people in the world

Brad Pitt about his wife:

My wife got sick. She was constantly nervous because of problems at work, personal life, her failures and children. She lost 30 pounds and weighted about 90 pounds. She got very skinny and was constantly crying. She was not a happy woman. She had suffered from continuing headaches, heart pain and jammed nerves in her back and ribs. She did not sleep well, falling asleep only in the mornings and got tired very quickly during the day. Our relationship was on the verge of a break up. Her beauty was leaving her somewhere, she had bags under her eyes, she was poking her head, and stopped taking care of herself. She refused to shoot the films and rejected any role. I lost hope and thought that we’ll get divorced soon… But then I decided to act. After all I’ve got the most beautiful woman on earth. She is the idol of more than half of men and women on earth, and I was the one allowed to fall asleep next to her and to hug her. I began to shower her with flowers, kisses and compliments. I surprised and pleased her every minute. I gave her a lot of gifts and lived just for her. I spoke in public only about her. I incorporated all themes in her direction. I praised her in front of her own and our mutual friends. You won’t believe it, but she blossomed. She became better. She gained weight, was no longer nervous and loved me even more than ever. I had no clue that she CAN love that much.

And then I realized one thing: the woman is the reflection of her man.

If you love her to the point of madness, she will become it.

Brad Pitt

I' not real sure about the last line... I don't any of us want a partner who is "mad".... but I think what he's trying to say here is that... if you truly someone, and show them.. not just tell them... that they in turn will become the person they are meant to be.... and then they in turn, can return this love to someone else and help them become the person they are suppose to be.

Friday, June 8, 2012

June Cupcake Giveaway | Diamond Candles Blog

One of these days I'm either going to win one of these.. or buy one... or maybe both.....  like getting a prize in the cereal box... but only for grown ups!!!!

June Cupcake Giveaway | Diamond Candles Blog

Monday, June 4, 2012

Carnival Candy Giveaway | Diamond Candles Blog

I have yet to buy any of these candles, but they are on my wish list to buy. They are soy candles, and they come with a ring inside... valued from $10.00 to over $100.00...I keep forgetting the highest value of the ring.. because it's not that important to me.  I love candles, and I like the surprise of finding something in it as it burns down. Kind of like the surprise in a cereal box when I was growing up.

Carnival Candy Giveaway | Diamond Candles Blog

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Dick Summer Connection

Dick Summer Connection

This is a great blog got us "Louie Louie Lads & Lasses".. don't let the Doom Drones get to you.  There is a new blog every Sunday.  I subscribe to the podcast, and listen to a different one each night.  It's about us, love, loving, giving, sharing... in general, life .... Give him a listen.... some of you might have heard his voice a few times....

Thursday, April 7, 2011

It's been awhile......

Haven't written anything in a long time... almost 2 months. Not what I intended when I started doing this. Lot of things been going on.. none I really want to talk about right now..

So this is going to be a happy blog post.  The past 2 days, my life has been involving a lot more interaction with small kids.  I live with 3 of my grand kids, with one more on the way.  About 3:15 am Wednesday morning Mady was trying to knock on my bedroom door with her hands full.. She had her Duckie, her new Pooh Bear and 2 cups.  She was convinced she had ants in her bad and that one of the cups was full of ants.  And she wanted to sleep on my floor.  I took the cups from her hands, and asked her which one had the ants... and then I opened it to show her there were no ants.. and took her back to her bed to check for no ants.  There were no ants but she still insisted on sleeping on my floor so I gathered up her comforter and pillows, made her a little bed on my floor.... and she slept there till about 7:30 am.  Now you may be asking. so why is this so worth posting about??  Well Mady's room is right next to her mommy & daddy's room... and normally she gets one of them, usually her daddy when she wakes up from bad dreams..and lately Mady has been wanting to do things like Grandma Sheri....she wants what I have for lunch.. for snack....she even wants to move her bed into my room so she can have a room like me.  And to think when I first moved in with them all, in August of 2009, she didn't want anything to do with me, and for some strange reason she called  me "Joey"

We also have been having the pleasure of keeping the little boy from across the street, Kyle ... which is really good! He's about 6 weeks old, and we (Amy & I) are learning what we still need before Gavyn arrives in a few weeks... and how to multi-task with a baby.  I'm a little more out of practice than Amy.. it's been over 20 years since I took care of a baby... and things sure have change!!  I didn't have even half the things that she has that makes it easier. And I didn't have a laptop either.. only a large very slow (but fast for the time) PC.  And I couldn't be happier learning to do all this over again!  I loved being a stay-at-home mom when my kids were little, and I'm loving the fact that I will be with this new grand child from day one!

Amy's best friend down here had her first child, Ayden, this past Monday.  And I will get to spend time with that one, and spoil him just a little as well!!  My life is getting full of little babies and I love it!!!  I  have always loved having a baby around.  I just need to learn how to type with one hand, how to rock a bouncy chair with my foot and a bunch of other things I have forgotten how to do. 

But life could not be better than being surrounded by God's miracles!! 

Monday, February 14, 2011

Dating .. over 50...

... just plain sucks!!  lol.  It's Valentine's Day, so what better time to talk about dating, and relationships, and being over 50.  I was divorced before I was 40... and dating wasn't to bad at that point... I was working.. I was going out with friends to a bar we hung out at... and I was meeting some great guys.  Then, about when I had really given up on finding a relationship... I fell into one.. and for 7 years.. it was great!  I really thought this is where I will be for the rest of my life.. and then almost as suddenly as I fell into it, I fell out.  He didn't want the responsibility of a relationship anymore.. done.  So I re-grouped, decided that I would "fall" into a relationship again.. only this time, now that I'm over 50.. it seems harder.  I'm not working, so it's hard to meet people.  I live with my daughter, and her family.... on a military base.  I don't do the bar scene anymore.. I'm just too old for it. And it seems that the men my age, that aren't in a relationship, are either to badly burned from past relationships and women who lied, cheated, or used them... or they too don't want the responsibility of a relationship... they only want to meet up... jump into bed... and call the next time they have an itch.  There is nothing wrong with that.  I've enjoyed those types of relationships in the past.. they really do fulfill a need... but after awhile, I'm finding it's just not working for me anymore. 

I have a friend, we've never met, we only communicate through their blog, and emails.  And they have been very helpful in me finding out just who I am... actually who I was along, and why, I am no longer willing to lower my standards, or lower the bar in how I want to be treated.  There is a line, from a recording they did, that goes like this....

Mothers, songs preach that without forever you are just being used.  But there is something much worse. It's much worse to find something important that goes to waste because you're not being used at all. 

I feel like I'm not being used at all, but then again.. I don't want to be used... I want to be loved for me... I want to be wanted.. not needed.   I'm not a "type" of woman.  I am unique... I've been told that.  And I also know that a lot of women say they aren't like others.  And while I can't speak for them, for me, it's true.  I don't like shopping... I don't like shoes.  I like auto racing, dirt tracks, crime shows, Mythbusters, Ghost Hunters.  I don't like "reality" shows, don't like Grey's Anatomy, or any show that if you miss the first episode of the first year, you are pretty much... Lost.  When I love, I give all... unconditionally.  I don't expect anything in return, other than to be loved, for me.. to be accepted for me.  Don't try to change me or "fix" me.  I'm not broken... I like who I am, where I am, and how my life is going.  And there is still room in it for someone.....